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Recently I had a conversation with someone I have not known long, and after mentioning some of the activities I had planned for the weekend, they replied, “How do you do all that?” I  made an offhand remark about making time by eliminating chores like laundry and dishes from my daily routine. (If only that were a joke…) I thought about what she said though, and why these varied activities are a part of my life. The reason is, they make me happy. In fact, one my earliest posts on this blog was about the capacity for happiness. We all have things we do because they enhance our lives – and if you don’t have these things, I’m willing to bet you’re not a very happy person.

Une petit prince: Adding what is needed; taking away what is not.

That’s not to say that activities equal happiness. There is a yin to this yang – Antoine du Saint-Exupery (The Little Prince) wrote, “Perfection is achieved not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.” Part of happiness is balance of doing and not doing. The list of things I don’t do is much longer than this humble list, in no particular order, of things that make me happy. (more…)


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All the seasons prove

I can only love you more

Year upon year, sir.

What I was doing on May 24, 2009!


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May is my anniversary month. Why not a series of posts on “Why I’m glad I married the Monkey”? It certainly fits in the “things that matter to me” category. Today’s installment was inspired by our argument this afternoon.

I don’t know what marriage counselors would say about this, but I say, whatever works: the Monkey and I only argue via IM. We might have had a handful of arguments face to face (handful is roughly a number you can count with your fingers) in the 4 1/2 years we’ve been together. And I’m referring to real, down-and-dirty kinds of arguments, not the “Are you gonna leave your shoes in the middle of the room all week?/Yes, now that you mention it I am; because you mentioned it, actually” kinds of arguments. (more…)

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